One of the most difficult things I have had to decide as a parent is what role extracurricular activities will play in my kids' lives. I am a pretty laid back hands off parent and let them make a lot of their own decisions. However I have always loved music and dance so when the opportunity to sign my oldest up for Kindermusik at 18 months I jumped at the chance. We loved it, it was a mommy & me activity so I loved spending the one on one time with her singing, dancing, reciting poems and I believe Kindermusik is a highly educational thirty minutes (it helps with reading and math connections as well as beginning a music foundation). Then soccer came onto the scene. I learned a lot about my oldest four year old in soccer. I learned that she was not motivated intrinsically. She was pretty lazy unmotivated on the field so we did the unthinkable. We bribed her with a Webkinz to score a goal (I'm pretty against bribing but I do NOT regret this choice. We were able to